A Manifestation Prayer for Summer Love.☀️❤️
Let’s talk about dating, dear one. Because I’m guessing it’s something you *don’t* want to talk about.
I sure didn’t. I told myself so many times the exact same thing I hear from my clients and students these days: “ I just want love to happen organically, like meeting someone amazing in my everyday life.”💕
That really is the dream, isn’t it? Because let’s face it – dating can feel torturous.
But summer is coming, dear one. And that golden summer breeze brings new opportunities for fresh perspectives on dating and finding love – as long as we lean into them.
So let me tell you what dating used to feel like to me (a big “yuck” factor), and the manifestation prayer I created that turned it all around…🙏🏼
By my mid-30s, my University career was in full swing and I had achieved most of the professional milestones I had set for myself at that time.
So I set the intention to attract into my life the loving partner and family I had always desired. I read books about manifesting and the law of attraction. I made a vision board. I also became a committed meditator and regularly attended meditation classes and listened to Dharma talks.
But something wasn’t working. I noticed that whenever I would decide to stop focusing on dating for a few months and really focus on getting centered and deepening my meditation practice, I felt the happiest I had ever felt.
During those times, I could also forge a very clear vision for what I wanted in my life in terms of partnership and family. “A house filled with love and laughter,” was my mantra, and I could hold it inside my mind with very little difficulty after a while.
(When I saw this sign in a Target aisle when I was single, I did a double take. It was exactly the love mantra I was already using, so I bought it. It now hangs in the living room I share with my sacred family.)
But as soon as I got off my meditation couch and tried to incorporate dating back into my life, I became miserable. Somehow, I couldn’t put theory into practice.
All of my law of attraction books told me that after I developed a clear vision for my future, I should “Trust and let go – let the Universe do the rest.” They told me that anxiety was a killer for my personal vision.
Somehow I was supposed to develop a specific, clear picture of what I sought to attract into my life, but I was also not supposed to worry about it too much or it wouldn’t come to me.
Something didn’t compute. How could I both think about something, and not think about it? How could I hold a vision in my mind, but not allow it to possess me?
Every time I went on a date, I would be wracked with anxiety. If I knew a little about the guy from writing to him online, I would somehow convince myself that I already knew him.
Either I would persuade myself that I wasn’t all that interested, in which case the poor soul never had a shot, or I would convince myself that he was my ideal mate - exactly what I was looking for, the one who would “save me” from singledom, the one who would bring into my life exactly the kind of calm and loving presence that I sought.
Now, I am an avowed feminist, and never once would I say out loud that I wanted a Disney fairytale for my own life. But somehow, that is exactly where my mind would go whenever a new “prospect” would come along.
I wished to be like the other people around me in happy relationships. I wished to bring a date to work functions and holiday parties.
I took all of these wishes and dreams with me on every date I went on, allowing a million judgments and measurements to run through my head as I was trying to talk with this new person to calculate if he could be my person.
Many times, if I had already decided this was the one for me (which I seemed to do several times a year), as soon as I actually got to know who he was, I would become disillusioned and then disengage. So that poor soul never had a shot either.
And then there were those people I put up on a pedestal but deep down inside of me, I feared I was unworthy of them for. At those times, it was me who never had a shot. In other words, I was never giving anyone a chance – neither them, nor me.
How could I incorporate dating, something I knew could ultimately lead to the vision I had for my life, into my otherwise Zen existence?
How could I transform dating from an act of torture into a pleasant activity inserted into a centered life?
After all, I had no trouble developing new friendships. How could I begin to look at dating as simply meeting someone new who I could get to know calmly? How could I remove all of the stakes and the pressures I was pinning on every date?
I eventually stumbled on the answer: I had to live my life “as if,” while also living my life “as is.”
Because one of the central principles of manifestation is “as if:” you have to be grateful in advance, as if what you want has already come to you.
Yet I’ve found that unless I’m equally grateful for the as is – my life exactly as it is at this moment – the manifestation process only brings me anxiety. This is because on some level, I am recognizing a lack in my current life.
One sweet adjustment we can make is to be just as grateful for the journey as we are for the destination (I know you’ve heard that before. Stay with me, dear one😘).
Here’s what I did: I found ways every day to delight in the spiritual path to self-awareness that I was on, the process of meeting new people through dating, and my cherished wish of finding a spiritual soulmate.
When you can be grateful for all of those things at the same time, then you can rest in the stillness of a quiet heart and balanced mind when you are dating.
Here’s where my love manifestation prayer came in.❤️🙏🏼
Whenever I meditated, I started beginning or ending my meditation session by directing some words towards a higher power, whom I called the Divine Being.
Somewhere in this dialogue I would mentally recite the words:
“Thank you for this kind man you are bringing into my life. Thank you that he is on his way. Thank you for the healthy relationship we will develop with each other, which will bring us ample opportunities to practice being our best selves and to give and receive love. Thank you for our long and lasting marriage, and our beautiful and healthy children. Thank you for love, thank you for life.”
That was the “as is” part, and it already felt really good.🥰🤗
But it felt even better when I added in the “as is,” like this:
“Thank you for the path of self-awareness that is bringing me closer to this spiritual soulmate. Thank you for the adventure of dating, which is bringing me all kinds of unique encounters with people I never would have met otherwise. Thank you for everything – I welcome it all.”
This prayer brought me so much peace on my dating path, because I said it every single day. It got me through dry spells, dating overwhelm, heartaches, and everything in between…
Until that kind man really did walk into my life 8 years ago. And our life together now is a beautiful vibrational match to that early vision for love I had in my single life (Thank you, Divine Being, for love and for life🙏🏼❤️).
So there you have it. Your new Manifestation Prayer for Summer Love.☀️ Just adjust the wording to make it your own, my dear. You got this.💪
And to support you on that path, I invite you to join my Summer Love Sanctuary on June 19th, solstice eve. We’ll be doing a collective Solstice Ritual for Calling Forth Love.
This “pop-up” women’s circle is for all female-identifying gender expressions and orientations.
And the early bird pricing of $10 off ends today!
Here’s all you need to know:
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Summer is the perfect time to fall in love. Join our women's circle for a Summer Love Sanctuary on June 19th, 4-5:30 PST, and harness the power of the solstice energy to draw vibrant love into your life.
On the solstice, the sun reaches its highest point in the sky, offering the longest light of the year. After months of turning inward during winter, this is our time to express our fullest and brightest selves.
In a truly cosmic sense, this is magnetic. You are magnetic.
Why not work with the powerful energies of the summer solstice to call forth your greatest love?
There’s a reason why so many weddings happen in June – it’s the month of love, the season of love, and perhaps, dear one, your time for love as well.
In this Summer Love Sanctuary, you will:
Practice manifestation rites to align with people who match your soul’s highest vision for love.
Engage in powerful somatic exercises to cleanse the old and welcome the new with love.
Participate in a collective candle-lighting ceremony for love. When we all hold the same intention together, the impact triples, and happy results come quickly.
Learn key tips for bringing your manifestation magic into the dating world.
Be witnessed and celebrated in small-group discussions where you can voice your intention for love.
Infuse your love intentions with sacred energies during a closing group Reiki transmission.
Sign up today! And when you invite a friend, both of you can receive a 15% discount with the promo code FRIEND.
Join us and let’s magnetize love together this summer while sharing and holding space for each other and with each other.
This women’s circle pop-up event is open to all female-identified gender expressions.
P.S. Don't miss out on this opportunity to align with the cosmic energies of love.
Register now and let’s create magic together!
You can register here: Summer Love Sanctuary 6/19
So be sure to sign up today! Early bird registration ($65, $10 off the regular price of $75) closes today at 11:59 PT.
If joining with a friend, please use the discount code FRIEND at checkout.
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Christina McMahon is a love coach and certified somatic counselor. Over the past seven years, she has helped hundreds of conscious singles remove inner barriers to love and step into the love life they desire and deserve.
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