What IS sacred partnership anyway?? 6 ways to spot true love…
Do you ever worry that you won’t be able to identify your sacred partner when you meet them?
There are actually specific hallmarks, and I’m going to share them all with you here!
First, let me tell you about when I met Darrin and how I knew he had sacred partner potential…because it is *quite* a story!!
On the same day I had my first meeting with Darrin, I had a first date with another man too.
At the same coffee shop. True story.
That’s the day I learned the Universe has a sense of humor.😜
Bachelor # 1 (the man I didn’t marry😀) was waiting outside of Aroma café in Studio City, LA, when I walked up. Let’s call him Aaron.
When I first saw Aaron, my nerves went all kinds of crazy. He was gorgeous – tall, dressed in a cool black jacket, and he smiled with genuine happiness when he saw me.
I literally had to talk myself out of running back to my car in fear. “No, you belong here,” I told myself. “He’s hot, you’re hot, you’re two hot people on a date.”
It was lovely. He told me about his years studying Buddhist meditation and riding around the country on his motorcycle. I told him about my mindfulness practice and my classes at an energy healing school, which was right next door.
Then I excused myself to go to the restroom. It was almost time for date #2 to begin, and Bachelor #2 (the man I did marry😊) was going to text me where we were going to meet (I was visiting LA from Santa Barbara, so I left the place-picking to my dates).
“Aroma café!” The text said. “See you there in 30 minutes!”
Really, Universe?😂
For so many years, I had felt trapped in a hellish kind of Groundhog Day, reliving the same painful dating patterns over and over again.
Now, suddenly, I was having the best Groundhog Day of my life – two different dates with two beautiful, soulful men who clearly had their lives together. And at the same little bohemian outdoor café.
Aaron and Darrin were living proof that I had shifted on the inside – I now believed I was worthy of this kind of quality partner. 🩷
Finally, I was dating from my highest vision for love (instead of dating from my love wound, which had produced the other kind of Groundhog Day).
But on my drive back to Santa Barbara, I was only thinking about one of these amazing men – Darrin. My heart practically burst at the seams when I recalled our time together.
How did I know which one of these suitors had sacred partner potential for me?
Here’s the difference:
With Aaron, I walked away thinking things about him: “Cute guy, really smart, highly accomplished. I’m excited to see him again.” I liked him, but mostly I admired him.
With Darrin, I walked away feeling things about him – his warmth, his genuineness, the easy way our conversation flowed from Deepak Chopra to our midlife career changes. Beyond admiring him, I could connect with him, because I could feel who he was at his core.
Two amazing people, but the difference between them was palpable. I continued to go on dates with both of them to make sure my initial impression held up. By Date #5 with Darrin, I knew he was my One.
So what was the magic that led me to this uber-spectacular dating experience, and ultimately to my sacred partner?
Well, in my quest for sacred love, I learned that being my authentic self was the only way to go. And denying that I wanted love simply was not authentic.
I needed both: to admit to myself that I yearned for romantic love with all my heart, and to become my own powerful source of love that spilled out to everyone else around me. I needed to live a life overflowing with love.
(You can learn more about how to work this same kind of magic in your own life when you join my online program, Opening to Sacred Love❤)
What is a sacred partnership?
So what is a sacred partner? Overall, there’s a transcendent quality to the relationship.
Here are 6 ways to tell you are with your sacred partner. You will feel:
Loved and supported at the deepest level of your being
Emotionally safe - you feel free to share anything
Deep attraction (the passion is built to last)
Easy and in flow (being with your beloved feels just like breathing)
Excited and engaged (it won’t feel like a “chore” to call or text this person – you’ll want to!)
Comfortable in your own skin (no tension or tightness in your body)
Now, you may not feel all of these things on Date #1! But I’m guessing you’ll walk away from that date with a heart lit up and feeling the potential for sacred partnership with that person.
And the more dates you go on, the more you will feel all of those things.
As one of my clients said, when she met her sacred partner, even when issues came up between them, the issues ended up moving them forward, rather than keeping them stuck. They just kept getting closer and closer.💓
Here are some other hallmarks you will probably notice:
The person will be proactive and consistent with you. You won’t have to guess if they are into you or not (they won’t let you forget it!)
The world will celebrate with you. Your family and friends will toast you as a couple, mainly because it will be easy for them to see how right you are together
Nothing about it will feel forced or out of balance (you won’t have to convince them of the “rightness” of your relationship, and vice versa)
You will be compatible lovers (the sex and the chemistry will be amazing!)
Your soulmate will support your gifts, dreams, and life purpose fully (Darrin cheered when I first told him I was thinking of leaving my full-time job to pursue my passions!)
You will be able to say honestly “My beloved is the best person I’ve ever met”
Your turn, beloveds!
Leave a comment and tell me about all the magic you are hoping to experience when you meet your sacred partner…Because you will, dear one! I’m cheering you on with love.💕
In the meanwhile, join my new group on Insight Timer, Sacred Love Seekers! (if you have trouble with that link, just search for Sacred Love Seekers in the Insight Timer search box, and it will come right up) I’ll be sharing tips and resources there to support you on your journey to love. It’s also a golden opportunity to connect with fellow love seekers on the app!
Christina McMahon is a love coach and certified somatic counselor. Over the past seven years, she has helped hundreds of conscious singles remove inner barriers to love and step into the love life they desire and deserve. Schedule your free consult call with Celeste, Christina’s Client Care Specialist and discover if love coaching is the right path to your Big Love.
